transgender day of remembrance around the world

transgender day of remembrance around the world

I only learned today was the Transgender Day of Remembrance this afternoon. As usual, the Human Rights Campaign sums it up best:

November 20 is recognized as the national Transgender Day of Remembrance – an opportunity for communities to come together and mark the passing of transgender or those perceived to be transgender individuals who have been murdered because of hate.

Wikipedia further informed me that the national (or possibly international?) holiday was started to honor Rita Hester who was murdered in my old hometown of Allston, Massachusetts in 1998.

If you’re curious a bit more about the holiday, I highly recommend watching some of the videos from an article in the Huffington Post about the Transgender Day of Remembrance: 20 Trans Pioneers.

International events and marches in honor of the Transgender day of Remembrance can be found online at transgenderdor.org.

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Over the summer I was in Berlin for the annual Fuck Parade. It’s one of the largest techno/electronic parades. It originally started as a protest against the Love Parade but seeing as how the Love Parade no longer happens, the Fuck Parade is basically the only techno street party that Berlin still has. Here’s a short video clip from the day.

Berlin’s Fuck Parade has a little bit of a history regarding gay and lesbian LGBT issues. That was partly descended from the Love Parade. But, in the end, it’s basically just one very large party on a nice summer day. With LOUD music!

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Today is my 27th birthday. AHHHHHHH!!!!! I’m officially old. (By no one’s standards.)

In honor of me turning 27 today, here are 27 things I’ve done in my life that I think were pretty cool.

27 awesome things I’ve done before turning 27

  1. Studied abroad (in London and in Sydney)
  2. Went skydiving over the Great Barrier Reef and landed (safely) on a beach
  3. Backpacked India for 3 months (can’t wait to go back)
  4. Fell in love with a boy in Tel Aviv
  5. Went on a trip to Iceland for a long weekend from Boston
  6. Traveled to random American cities for various weekends to visit friends and family
  7. Started a travel blog
  8. Read a lot of great books (and seen a lot of great movies)
  9. Worked professionally as a graphic designer
  10. Lived, worked and studied in Boston for seven awesome years
  11. Volunteered/worked for a political nonprofit in Israel
  12. Learned to relax on the beaches of India
  13. Managed to get a “job” and live in Berlin
  14. Seen a hell of a lot of live bands and music gigs (and music festivals)
  15. Traveled to a bunch of places on the whim (Paris, Puerto Rico)
  16. Took a cab with strangers in the middle of a blizzard
  17. Went on an epic road trip with some friends as a teenager
  18. Saw the sunrise over Mt. Sinai in Egypt
  19. Studied at a great university that gave me plenty of opportunities (even if I didn’t take them all)
  20. Got a tattoo (two, actually!)
  21. Celebrated Songkran in Bangkok, Yom Kippur in Israel & Diwali in India
  22. Written down a lot of important memories (online and off)
  23. Learned to cook a few main meals (which can be surprisingly enjoyable)
  24. Been skinny dipping a few times…
  25. Finally overcame a few of my fears enough to be comfortable with myself
  26. I’ve met some truly incredible and interesting people over the years
  27. Backpacked around the world for 18 months!

Despite the fact that by turning 27 I’m now a year older, I’m actually quite proud to be me.

Gay Orbitz - facebook travel contest

Orbitz’s Gay Travel version of their website is currently running a contest (Nov 1-30). I recently won a Facebook travel contest last month, so you can be sure I’m going to enter this one as well!

The contest is only open to USA residents and the prize is two roundtrip airline tickets to Sydney, AUSTRALIA for their Gay Mardi Gras (plus $500 cash). Sydney’s Mardi Gras was the first “pride” parade I ever went to, though I wasn’t “out” at the time.

More details on the contest and to enter can be found here on Facebook. If you enter, be sure to write that Adam Groffman referred you :)

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Director Spike Jonze and French filmmaker Simon Cahn co-directed a short stop-motion video titled Mourir Auprès de Toi (To Die By Your Side). It takes place is one of Paris’ most legendary bookstores (and one of my personal favorites)—Shakespeare and Company. The bookstore’s location just steps from Notre Dame, on the Left Bank in the Latin Quarter has made it a regular Parisian institution. I once flew to Paris for the weekend (all the way from Boston) with the intent of visiting the bookstore.

To me, bookstores can be an incredibly sexy place. And no, that’s not just because I spent five years working as a bookseller. Something about old books, millions of printed words, claustrophobic aisles and people casually moving from book to book. Bookstores are where magic happens. And Spike Jonze brings the magic to life in this sexy love story.

Spike Jonze: Mourir Auprès de Toi on Nowness.com

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But really, who doesn’t?! I’m not the biggest fan of Anthony Bourdain, but I do enjoy nude swimming (skinny dippin’). His shows are usually entertaining and all, but something about him just…turns me off. Maybe it’s the smoking or the incredible amount of profanities. Whatever.

But, like a million other people on the internet, I learned that TMZ acquired a nude pic of probably the world’s most famous traveling chef. Here’s the photo via Bourdain’s own Twitter account. You can read a bit more about it on BuzzFeed. Apparently it’s from the Caribbean.

Oh, and why am I sharing this on a gay travel blog? Bourdain’s not gay but he’s certainly a big name in travel. And swimming in the buff is my kind of vacation. Especially for the Caribbean.

 

Harvey Milk movie poster Finally watched Milk, the movie about Harvey Milk. I know it’s something I should’ve seen a long time ago, but before I “came out” (ugh, I hate that phrase), I wasn’t really into watching movies with gay themes. Though in college, I very much remember being very much into the gay rights movement. (It was Boston after all, and I was there when gay marriage was finally legalized). In fact, I probably could’ve been pushed to come out much sooner if I’d seen more things that featured gay themes, people, etc.

Anyways, the movie was good. I was kind of hoping it would quash all this pent-up frustration for activism. With Occupy Wall Street (and seeing Occupy Berlin first-hand), I’ve been really eager to participate in some of the many causes I believe in and support. But at the same time, I don’t feel comfortable enough devoting all my time, energy and motivation into politics. It can be so emotionally draining. Well, regardless, I was secretly hoping that watching a movie about political activism would help serve as a release. Not so much. Now I just feel guilty and useless. Guilty because I’m not doing enough. Useless because I’m not even trying.

Maybe I need a wake-up call. And the time and money to do the things that I not only want to do, but really need to do.

Buy Milk on Amazon (DVD)

Texas

After getting a call-to-action from the Human Rights Campaign, I sent an e-mail to my US Senator asking him to back down on his anti-gay beliefs regarding the Defense of Marriage Act. This was his reply:

Dear Mr. G:

Thank you for contacting me regarding President Barack Obama’s decision to order the Department of Justice (DOJ) to discontinue defending the Defense of Marriage Act (P.L. 104—199). I appreciate having the benefit of your comments on this important matter.

I strongly oppose President Obama’s decision to instruct the DOJ to stop defending the constitutionality of the Defense of Marriage Act. The President has elected to make this ill-informed decision based on political motivation, rather than defending a statute that was passed by Congress, signed into law by previous Administrations, and broadly supported by the American people. I firmly believe that both President Obama and his Administration have an obligation to defend and uphold federal law, regardless of personal ideology, and you may be certain that I will continue to monitor this matter closely.

As you may know, in 1996 Congress overwhelmingly passed—and former President Bill Clinton signed into law—the Defense of Marriage Act. This federal law defines marriage as “only a legal union between one man and one woman as husband and wife”—I firmly support this position.

Under the laws, traditions, and customs of all fifty states, marriage has historically been defined as the union of a man and a woman. However, judicial rulings—and outright lawlessness by local officials in some states—have threatened traditional marriage and moved this debate onto the national stage. The U.S. Supreme Court decision in Lawrence v. Texas provides lower courts with the leverage needed to invalidate traditional marriage laws. And the first major assault on traditional marriage came in Goodridge v. Mass. Dept. of Health, when the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court—citing the Lawrence decision—overturned that state’s traditional marriage law. Since this time, other activist state courts have followed Massachusetts’ lead. In light of these judicial trends, constitutional scholars on both sides of the aisle agree that the Defense of Marriage Act and similar state laws are now in peril. I believe that judges should strictly interpret the law and avoid the temptation to legislate from the bench or color their rulings with personal ideology.

I appreciate the opportunity to represent Texans in the United States Senate. Thank you for taking the time to contact me.

Sincerely,

JOHN CORNYN
United States Senator
517 Hart Senate Office Building
Washington, DC 20510
Tel: (202) 224-2934
Fax: (202) 228-2856

This why I don’t want to live in Texas. The state doesn’t affirm or believe in my basic human rights. I have a lot of pent-up anger about Texas, gay rights in Texas and et cetera. John Cornyn and my other Texas “representatives” don’t actually represent me and are oftentimes, in fact, working against me. It’s hard to love my hometown and the place I grew up because of this.

What do you think? Am I taking politics too personal?

LonelyPlanet

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Lonely Planet selected Uganda as its top destination choice for 2012. Lonely Planet doesn’t typically shy away from controversy. With their choice of Uganda as one of the best countries to visit next year, they do it again.

Uganda has very little tolerance for homosexuality and the the country is highly homophobic. The UK Foreigner’s Office even warns would-be travellers:

There is very little social tolerance of homosexuality, which is illegal. There have been moves, initiated by a Ugandan MP, to introduce reactionary legislation that would further criminalize homosexuality and introduce the death penalty for some activity… you should be aware that homosexuality is generally seen as taboo and exists on the margins of society.

There was a huge international uproar over the “Kill the Gays” bill in May and while it failed then, the country re-opened the legislation just a few weeks ago.

Lots of travellers ignore the politics of a region when they visit, and so apparently does Lonely Planet. At the very same time that the country is announcing a renewed fervor in the persecution of homosexuality, Lonely Planet is rewarding the country with a highly publicized and top-billing travel suggestions. Travel boycotts are fairly common and have been used in the past to effectively send a message by international communities. Sure, it doesn’t always work, but why reward evil-doers with exceptional and unnecessary praise?

Passport Magazine has a nice write-up on the issue as well as a call-to-action to comment on the Lonely Planet article and reconsider their choice.

And as of November 10, 2011, there’s a bit more news about Uganda and the Kill the Gays bill. You can read some more about it on Queerty: Will Ugandan LGBT activism improve now that David Kato’s murderer has gotten 30 years?