Are you ready to Blush? An Interview with Wilder Daze

We recently spoke with Wilder Daze, a gay recording artist based in Brooklyn. We fell in love with his single and the travel-themed video.

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1) Tell us about Brooklyn. What’s it like to live there as an artist?

I’ve lived in Brooklyn for almost a year now. I’ve been in NYC for almost six, but I came to Brooklyn to be closer to my recording studio. It’s very convenient for me as an artist because I can walk over to my studio. I also love going to my favorite little Parisian cafe up the street to do some work or read. I mostly love this area because it still has that old-school charm, and there’s just a lot of great bars, cafes, thrift shops. I love walking around here at night. It’s quieter than Manhattan, but I find Brooklyn to be full of just as many surprises.

2) What are some of your most memorable trips? How often do you travel and what kinds of places do you travel to?

Well, I’m half Brazilian, so growing up; I traveled to Brazil a lot. Those are some of my most memorable trips. We would visit my mom’s family in Belo Horizonte, where I’d see all my cousins, and then explore other cities. Rio is by far my favorite. I love to go there now as an adult, when I can. I love any city where people are drinking and dancing in the street, and it’s just a part of the culture there.

I travel every year, some more than others. I’m always excited to go somewhere new. Last year, I traveled to Europe for the first time. I went to Prague, Dubrovnik, Paris, and Amsterdam. It was truly the experience of a lifetime. Every city was gorgeous. Paris in particular was one that I had a love affair with. The beauty of the city and the people are what made me blush. I also ended my year in New Orleans, which has become my favorite city in the US, besides New York. It’s wild. I heard the best music of my life in that city.

3) What are your reasons for traveling?

Growing up, I traveled mostly to either visit family or spend time with family. Now, I’d say I travel the most just to experience a new city or country, and I love doing that with good friends. Traveling is very inspiring for my writing as well. I find that I do most of my writing when I’m going somewhere.

4) In your latest video, you tell the story of a holiday romance in Paris – tell us a bit more about that…

Some of the most profound romances that I’ve had have also been the most brief. In Paris, I truly felt that a passion inside of me had been reignited. It was one of those life-changing, unforgettable moments. It wasn’t just one person but also the architecture, the aesthetic of the city, the food, the wine. I spent my 23rd birthday there and drank a bottle of wine underneath the Eiffel Tower with my sister and our friends. My romance in Paris was short-lived though. I felt like I was being snatched away too soon, and I hope to go back this year to pick up where we left off.

5) Have any other holiday romance stories you want to share? 😉

I did have one other holiday romance. It was at the start of 2015 in Rio de Janeiro. It lasted a couple days, so actually longer than in Paris. We smoked and watched the sunset. All I’ll say is that it was the best I’ve ever had, for other reasons. It’s another one that I still think about all the time. I tend to hold on to my romances for dear life, long or short.

“Blush” is the first single off his upcoming debut album, “Golden Hour.” His latest production was shot on VHS video to complement the retro pop vibe on the track. The video tells the story of a short-lived romance in Paris. Learn more about his music on his website,

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Daniel Mora Photography

Euality pictures by Daniel Mora

Euality pictures by Daniel Mora

Berlin is a city that where you hear thousands of stories a day. Some of them are so interesting that you can’t stop listening to them. Meeting this story tellers keeps you informed and aware that some of us still care about the community. I got the chance to meet Daniel Mora, an expath from the US living in Berlin. He’s a supporter of the LGBT community and has something to tell us…
Daniel, please tell us when you decided to start supporting the LGBT community.
My project on equal rights came about during the 2012 USA presidential election. There was so much hate speech from the conservatives regarding all aspects of their political positions and I was frustrated hearing their rhetoric all the time. Specifically the issue of preventing marriage rights for all people in the US due to their sexual preferences and identities. In the USA, the right of marriage also has legal benefits such as tax incentives, adoption opportunities, and visitation rights for ill and injured spouses.
The emotion of love is an equally similar experience across all peoples of the earth. And to say that a couple in love is not allowed to be married because it would violate the “sanctity of marriage” was maddening. Especially considering that the divorce rate in the USA is now over 60% across the country.
I wanted to meet a diverse group of couples who were in love and attempt to capture their emotion and love toward one and other. I felt this would be a very complex project because real intimate love is a tremendously private experience and being able to visually express it with a stranger watching and snapping photos is not a comfortable experience. I put an advertisement on craigslist looking for volunteers and also asked my friends to see if they knew anyone who would be interested in participating. Thankfully I had a number of volunteers from all ages, races, and persuasions.
Being able to witness people express their love towards one and other, as well as share their stories with me was very emotionally fulfilling. Especially for me when in my own personal life I have not had the opportunity to experience love of this depth.
I wish to continue working for equal rights and showing that humans are all the same no matter where we come from, how we look, and who we love. I hope that being able to share these stories and emotions with others through photography can encourage people to speak up about these issues, and also hopefully change opinions of those who disagree with these sentiments.
To see more of Daniel’s photography work, click HERE



Some gays and lesbians denied the fact that they had some measure of hatred to each other while some admit that truly their relationship with their fellow lesbian or gay doesn’t go smoothly. One of the lesbians whose name will not be disclose remarked that “they started [the gay], we were gonna fight and we are gonna end it”. This statement shows that even they themselves are aware of hatred or dislike that existed between the two groups.

While this might not be applicable to all gay – lesbian relationship, this may be the reason why many denied the fact that there is no such experience or hatred that existed between them, it is a matter of personal orientation about individual’s sexual identity.

There are some gay men that have had an awesome relationship with lesbians because they choose to not be resentful, and there are some gays that actually don’t get along well with lesbians. Wherever they spot a lesbian or group of lesbians, the hatred just pop into their mind, vis – à –vis the lesbians to the gays also.

The question is why are there this kind of reactions to each homosexual group?

Opinions are many on what could have caused the arousal of such kind of reaction from both groups and it becomes very difficult to ascertain that this is the exact reasons that brought about this reaction. However, one of the major reasons why such kind of reaction is being exude by both the gays and the lesbians is pride. It actually comes from the gay side.

This is due to the wrong perception among the gays that the lesbians see themselves as a man. Since gay and lesbian relationship is just like the heterosexual relationship that involves two partner – one male and the other female – just that in the former both are of the same sex, the gays thought since two female are required to complete a lesbian relationship that those females now pictured themselves as men; i.e. equating themselves to men.

While the gays do not have any strife or discord with lesbians that uses lipstick – they look more feminine to the gays – they extremely detest those lesbians who tends to act or dress like a man. The pride that the lesbian doesn’t have what it takes to keep the ins and outs of the relationship at its best does make the gay men not to associate with the lesbians.

LGBTQIA: Alphabet Soup

If you’re reading this blog, you’re no doubt familiar with the initalism LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transsexual or Transgender) that’s used to refer to a large proportion of the non-heterosexual and/or non-cisgender population.

This is really just the tip of the iceberg, as the initialism can be further extended to LGBTQIA, where the Q is for queer or questioning, I for intersex and A for asexual or ally. It is in fact also possible to extend it even more to LGBTTQQIAAP, or other fun pronounceable variants like QUILTBAG and FABGLITTER.

But what do these labels serve to do for us as a community? Does having so many different labels that enable self-actualisation and ownership under the same umbrella unite us in our diversity, or do they assist segregation within the community, thereby pushing us apart? How, in fact, did we end up together in the same camp in the first place?

Certainly this comes down in large part to history.

The gay liberation movement in New York that grew out of the Stonewall riots of 1969, for example, was mostly organised by gay men, and subsequently received support from gay women in solidarity to their cause.

By extension, others who identified as non-heterosexual were drawn in to taking part and so the community grew and so the umbrella expanded to include more and more different kinds of identities and orientations.


Of course, I see this is a wonderful thing. I am moved by such inclusivity, and am deeply proud to be part of such a community.

But nowadays we have pride events and awareness initiatives aimed at specific segments of the LGBTQIA community as they become more and more independent from one another. We have bisexual awareness week once a year, and several cities in North America (Toronto, Seattle, San Francisco, DC and now Brighton in the UK) have trans pride events separate from the main pride events.

As we are gaining autonomy from each other, does the LGBTQIA community still really exist?

In one way, the fact that it may no longer be necessary is a great sign of the progress towards equality (and indeed the perceived ‘normalness’ of such identities as gay, trans or genderqueer) in several societies around the world.

Nonetheless, there is still a lot of work to do, and I believe that solidarity with any (historically or currently) oppressed minority can go a long way to progress the cause of equality.

So even though it might potentially bother a particularly touchy leather dyke in a committed dom-sub triad with her two slaves somewhere to be mentioned in the same breath as a squealing power bottom drag queen who likes hooking up with bears on Grindr, our solidarity for each others equality is ultimately more important.

Maybe we should just expand our initialism to include all the letters of the alphabet and embrace them with equal love and compassion.

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The Beard Experiment

Have you ever wondered what it is like having a beard? Do people will perceive you in a different way?- Those were things I asked myself during the last few weeks. An answer to these questions would only be possible by experimenting. That’s why no razor will be seen at my place for the next weeks.

Being labeled as a  ‘twink’ wasn’t bothering me at all, I enjoyed myself and took advantage of it. The number of guys asking to get twinks is just ridiculous, there seem to be people focused/obssesed with it. It doesn’t mean the opposite with beards, speacially in Berlin, which I like calling ” The City of all beards” – Hipsters with all types of beards, leather guys with beards (obviously), and of course the regular population wishing to have the genes to get one.

By having said that, I don’t mean to offend anyone. Just to clarify that having a beard doesn’t make you more of a men. Unfortunately gay society stigmatizes each one of us, and doesn’t really offer as much freedom as it declares. This feeling made me want to see how it feels like being on other side of the river, meaning: Growing a Beard.

At the beginnning I didn’t really think this would change a lot the public I usually attract. To my surprise, it did. On the train I would get more eye-contact with guys that were normally out of my league. It has to do with the fact most guys here have a beardm sounds like a cliché, but that’s how it is. 5 days have gone by, growing a beard sounds like a plan to me! One that will probably take about 3 weeks to happen…

Not worrying about shaving is nice, it saves also 10 minutes of your day. Doesn’t make you much more of a men but it will make you look much more masculine ( exception: very querky bearded guys ) –  Guys seem to be into it, so let’s go for it. A follow-up story will be posted in about 2 weeks, just to let you know further results of it.